Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Racism and cheesecake

Over the weekend I had the pleasure of hanging out with one of my very best buddies, Holly. I will talk about that later. I want to talk about a "what would you do" situation for the moment.

Holly and I and another friend went to the cheesecake factory for dinner on Saturday night and were unexpectedly joined by two more people ( I hadn't known them before). They were not friends of my or Holly's. During the course of the evening, racial slurs were used over and over by these two guys. I could only drop my jaw in disgust and wonder why in the world I was still sitting there silently. I tried my best to just ignore them and talk to Holly. I'm just shocked because I never have heard words like these used (moreover in a very public place). These two men (boys) should have known better, not only because they are human, but because they live a lifestyle thats typically hated against by many ignorant people. I'll let you figure that one out. So, If you know me at all, you're thinking "Not only did she sit with two new people during dinner, she listened to them speak loudly when they used the N word over and over again". I'm surprised I didn't die of mortification and impotent rage right there.

So, what would you do in that situation. I probably, no, I definitely should have said something. And now I'm mad that I didn't.


aunt kiki said...

I probably would have made some snide remarks that they probably would not have understood, given their intelligence level. Or left early. It makes me really uncomfortable to try to sit through something like that.

jaybrams said...

i definitely would have said something, probably straight-forward but 'nice' at first.

Assuming that wouldn't work, I'd then have several options, some of which aren't exactly becoming of a Christian, others that would not infringe on my integrity but would make them extremely uncomfortable.

but its tough to take action sometimes, so learn from it and be prepped to stand up next time.

Tara said...

I love the blog. I'm really happy for you. As far as what happened at the Cheesecake Factory, I think that sometimes it's best to just "be silent". You could have yelled and made a huge deal out of the situation but at the end of the day, they're still going to feel the same way. Just pray for them. Seeing that I'm black, I've learned from experience that it's best to just be silent and just pray.I've had to bite my tongue a many a day, especially when we were in Fayetteville. Don't feel bad for not saying anything. Remember that only God can change the hearts of others; we can't. Just be a walking example of Christ and over time, they'll realize where they've gone wrong. Most times you can aid in a person changing their lives for the better just by demonstrating love when around them.


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